This is an obvious one, but do you know how hard it is to be truly honest with yourself when you are pregnant? I’ve struggled with this for so long, yet I never truly got over it. I knew I was pregnant, but I knew a little bit of me was still hiding it from the outside world. I didn’t want to look like a freak, so I tried hiding it from my family and friends.
That’s all well and good, but what if you feel like you shouldn’t tell your family? Or you think that telling them will make them feel bad or make them think you’re weird, so you just keep it to yourself? Because of this, it might be hard for your husband to accept that your pregnancy is all fine and that you’re not upset, but it’s worth it to have someone else know just how you are feeling.
This is not the first time I have had to explain this to my husband, but it has been the most difficult. In the end, he has done the best he can to accommodate my wishes. I am very thankful for that.
I agree. For a while there, I was also having the baby in a place where it wasn’t really “my” place, but I felt it was important. After all, this is what God meant for me to do and I have no idea why I would ever feel like I was taking advantage of this.
I am trying to get my husband to put his foot down on this one. It’s really none of my business, and he is the one who is always getting the baby, so it’s not really even up to him. He just feels it’s his place to be with my child. I’m hoping that my husband will learn that I am not the one who is taking advantage of him.
It seems like I am right, but I have never felt like I was taking advantage of my husband in any way. I suppose this is my fault for not being more honest with him. I have become a very selfish and self-centered person. I have no idea why God would want me to have a child with someone I do not love. I have become a very narcissistic person so I do not understand why I feel the need to take care of someone else.
Sometimes people feel the need to take care of everyone else so that they will feel fulfilled. That’s a self-centered thought process, and it takes away from having a purpose that’s yours to serve.
When it comes to a child, selfishness is one of the most destructive ideas and a person should always be careful about how they handle their emotions. God’s plan for us is to have children we are committed to raising as the perfect little family, and we cannot be selfish in that. A child is a gift from God, a child is not someone else’s to take care of.
There is a great quote from the Bible about parenthood that can be applied to almost every topic we deal with in life: “We are the temple of the living God.” God did not create us with just one or two things in mind that are special about us, but with His own unique vision and purpose. This means that we all have a responsibility to be the best we can be, and that means being more selfless and giving our all to our family.
No one is asking you to take care of your child, of course, they’re telling you they don’t want you to have it.